When we say “lose interest,” it suggests that she once enjoyed it.
Some women may have never really wanted or liked sex; they might have just gone along with it to get a date, a partner, or some peace. When they decide they’re done with that, it’s not that they’ve lost interest in sex; they’re just choosing to stop playing a game that feels unfair.
For women who used to enjoy sex but no longer do, the main reason is often that their partner isn’t being caring or supportive outside of the bedroom. He might be a good lover, but if he’s not a good partner in other ways, that can really affect her interest.
There are probably as many reasons for this as there are women.
Here are a few general ideas, but please focus on the message rather than getting caught up in the details.
One thing I notice is that sex is often shown and experienced in ways that please men more than women. Society hasn’t really focused on how to make sex enjoyable for both. As a guy, I know I can be very focused on goals, and this, combined with a lack of good information and ideas about what makes sex good, can lead to experiences that aren’t very satisfying for women. If it’s not enjoyable, why would they want to engage?
From what I’ve seen as a teacher, most people genuinely want to have fun together and treat each other well. They want to love each other in the ways they prefer. However, many are unsure about what to do, how to communicate, or what their partners want. One thing that seems clear is that people often avoid talking about sex.
It turns out that there can be a lot more enjoyment for men if they change how they approach it.
Many factors can lead a woman to lose interest in sex, including age, stress, and added responsibilities like work and kids.
